Where Change Starts Pt.2 - Positive Self Talk!
Did you get a chance to self evaluate since we last talked? What did you find out about yourself? Have you tried to be intentional with the way you think? Is it working? Probably not and that's ok; it's a process that takes time. This post should help you be more intentional, more consistent and more open to the change.
You ever notice how, that a lot of the time we are usually the hardest critic of our "mess-up"? Or how we never highlight or celebrate the little goals and achievements in the same way we celebrate the big stuff? I know I get it, we don't want to seems arrogant or boastful but trust me there is a difference. I can remember when I was in high school and I would make the honor roll, I was always so excited to get my name posted in the newsletter or the announcement board; it was a big deal and then as I got to college, I celebrated less, then once I graduated from college and transition into the workforce the celebration became even less. The focus instead become to out perform a co-worker, or to be the best sales person for the quarter and so on and so forth. There was no time to celebrate the accomplishment because I was too busy trying to figure out how to win, not that winning is a bad but I was too busy trying to strategize my next move and to hit the next achievement target. However, in this process of just trying to win, I started criticizing my achievements. I started finding everything wrong with my performance and spent more time comparing myself to the people around me. Here is the thing, you can not sustain growth and success if all you have in your thoughts are negative reflections. This is why we have to get rid of the negative self talk and replace it with positive self talk because the positive dialog is more conducive to self motivation, growth and success.
Can you think back to a time in your life where you spent more time criticizing your accomplishments because you did not feel it met the standards of others? Are you still doing it? This is call negative self talk. There's a difference between self evaluation and negative self talk. This is why it is important that we self evaluate before we do anything so that we know our strengths and weaknesses and we can address them accordingly instead of using them as a weapon against our own best interest.
Let's be clear, like with everything else positive self talk is not just going to happen. You have to be intentional with the change and you have to be kind to yourself as you transition from negative to positive. To help you start the process of positive self talk I'll provide some examples of how you can rephrase some of the things we mentally or verbally say to ourselves about ourselves. Remember, we spend more time with ourselves than we do we anyone else. We have to start training our minds to speak positivity over our lives. So what can we say to ourselves to help reduce negative self talk and increase and encourage positive self talk? Here are a few examples:
Negative Talk - I am not good at this.
Positive Talk - What am I missing to make this better?
Negative Talk - This is too hard.
Positive Talk - This may take more time and energy than I anticipated.
Negative Talk - I can't make this any better.
Positive Talk - I can always find room for improvement so I'll keep trying.
Negative Talk - I never get anything right.
Positive Talk - I haven't figured out how to correct it yet.
Now that you have some examples to work with, start being intentional with the way you speak to yourself. Between the process of self evaluation and positive self talk you are on your way to changing your mindset. As you continue to change your mindset you will start positioning yourself for abundance. The ability to be great is within you, you simply need to nourish it so that you can Vibrate Higher!